If someone likes to shop (and I am talking about clothes here) it does not mean that person has a sense of fashion. Then if a person has a sense of fashion this does not automatically mean they like to shop.

The same is generally true for gender and orientation. One does not define the other. The only obvious link is terminology here. Oh, and social stereotypes, but fuck those.

I started with shopping and fashion so I will return now that I have said my truncated part on gender and sexual orientation.

As this short story goes… I have an amazing friend who texted me recently about a date she has and what to wear. What makes this just beyond amazing for me is she is AFAB or assigned female at birth and cis gender and I am trans feminine. For me to be asked thoughts on what she should wear on a date is a compliment I am not going to question and take as a big boost to my ability to put an outfit together, regardless of reality.

It seems to me from a great number of conversations over the years that she does like to shop but may not have the fashion sense she wants or has the energy / time to pursue. This is no slight at all. We are all who we are and that is that.

Now, a little side note: I will send her a link to this so there is some chance the person I am mentioning could chose to click the link and then make a second choice to read this. I think she will see if those decisions end up with her reading this post. So for everyone else, you have some indication of what could happen or whatever you may makeup as probable for yourself. I digress again.

So I took screenshots of our texts and removed identifying things. I asked, so stop bitching about that AITA crap!

This is close to the start of the text.

There is so much context here and no I will not fill anyone else in on any of that other than to mention I sent a selfie of what I was wearing recently when I was going out.

Things progressed to this as I realized what was going on. I just jumped right into giving advice where my experience level puts me in a place where I should not be saying any of this.

It is much the same as a average teenager proclaiming; Yes highly educated person I disagree with your dissertation and I am going to tell you why you are wrong and I know better than you even though I have no experience, education or whatever to do so. Well, that sounded good in my head, but you can translate to get what I am saying with this.

Then it looks like I tried to head down a new topic path and just might have further taken liberties to dig myself a deeper hole.

Good friends are amazing and when a text like this happens I cannot help but be happy I can say these crazy things and then make a post like this knowing fully I will give her the opportunity to see it.

Go have an amazing date! Let me know how it goes.